The 5th grade classes put on the play Romeo and Juliet for Kids every year. Everett Roger got to participate. I was surprised when he announced he wanted a larger role and he has never shown any interest in being on stage. He got the role of Prince Escalus,Prince of Verona and Friar Laurence. He had a tremendous number of lines to memorize. His class did a great job.
We had been told by our Career Development Officer (the office that makes assignments for first and second tour Foreign Service Officers) that we would probably receive our assignments by email at about 3:00pm Washington time (8:00 pm our time) on Monday the 14th. In anticipation of this, the 6 of us in Lagos who are bidding on the 2019 summer rotation cycle made arrangements to get together at that time to offer each other congratulations or condolences. We also invited spouses and the remainder of the Lagos FAST (first and second tour) officers. All of us were on edge in the days leading up to the announcement, hoping that we would end up somewhere high on each of our respective lists. Continue Reading →
What mixed emotions I have regarding choosing paint colors. When Ben and I bought our first house in 2004 in Denver Colorado I couldn’t wait to pick and paint the small rooms. Every room was a different color and I loved it! So much fun and energy for our small house. I had a red kitchen, Koala colored living room, yellow, dark green and robin egg blue bedrooms and a bright blue bathroom. When we built our home in Leeds Utah it was a much bigger project. After designing and building the custom home I had serious decision fatigue. So when it came to choosing paint colors for our large rooms, with high ceilings, on three stories I was out of ideas. And truthfully a bit afraid. Poor choices would be much bigger and more expensive mistakes. We ended up with white for almost everywhere, light green for the little boys room, yellow for Dannica’s room and Koala for the outside. Yep I still love that color and will use it again for sure. 10 years in that home and I never got around or had the courage and money to paint it all the vibrant colors I had in my mind. When we arrived in Lagos we were told that there was a $500 allowance to be used on items to make our home more usable to our custom needs. Some people put in shelving etc but most people use it to paint. While Ben and I were pouring over bid options for our second tour I used painting as a distraction. It sort of worked. 🙂 I am very happy with our choices. We could choose whatever we wanted but it needs to be able to be covered with 3 coats of paint, done by the Consulate maintenance, when we leave.
Volunteering at the medical clinic and providing classes for the nurses and midwives means I have birth on my mind much of the time. A three year break meant that I only thought about birth a couple of times a day, but once a midwife always a midwife. Thank heavens for Ben who listens to me often describe what I have observed about the birth culture here in Nigeria, how resourceful and ready to learn the doctors and midwives are that I work with, how frustrating the corruption is here, how I can’t wait to share a piece of knowledge with the midwives, but most of all he listens to how frustrating it is that I am only allowed to go once or twice a week on their busiest days so I almost never get to be there for births!!! Oh it is so hard for this midwife heart to not see a woman at next weeks antenatal clinic and know she had her baby and not know if I will see her again. I do feel like I am starting to figure out how to teach and talk and most importantly ask the right questions. I always have so many questions.
On that note this is a repost from 2013. It was posted on my old childbirth blog. I found myself giving this advice over and over yesterday at the clinic.
We are very lucky to have access to the diplomatic pouch, even to receive personal mail. Many expats here essentially have no (practical) options for receiving mail. We do have FexEx and DHL in Lagos, but it is fairly cost-prohibitive to use them for most things. One downside to the diplomatic pouch, however, is that mail sent through it all goes to a warehouse in Virginia, and is then forwarded to us as space is available, which can take a long time. I think the fastest we’ve ever received something sent from the states is about 3 weeks, and it is often 6 weeks. My mom sent us invitations to participate in an event organized by someone she knows from a printmaking club she is part of, called Print Day in May.
She sent the mail with the invitation postcards at the end of march, and they arrived this week, only just in time. There were participants in Print Day in May from all 50 states, and from dozens of countries.
The list of openings which we could “bid” on started at 222 possibilities. We were subject to a few limitations on that list.
I am not yet off language probation, so I was only allowed to bid on positions which are language designated, i.e. for which the Department of State considers it mandatory to have foreign language skills, and for which the Department will teach me the necessary language.
I am a consular coned officer, so I can only bid on positions which are either a 2 year consular tour or a rotation tour consisting of 1 year consular and 1 year of some other job.
I am required to bid on positions in at least 2 of the Department’s geographic bureaus (regions of the world)
Each position on the list has an estimated date when I would be expected to arrive. I can only bid on positions which will allow me to depart my current post when scheduled to, complete any necessary training for the position (including learning a language) and arrive at post at the right time. There is a little flexibility in this rule, but even with that flexibility, a lot of positions were ruled out.
We must submit at least 10 bids.
The first two rules left me with about 110 possible positions around the world. We then spent much of our free time in the last two weeks reading up on posts, reaching out to people we know or to the fabulous Community Liaison Officers at posts, and otherwise researching, to try to find the places which will best fit our family’s needs and desires. We focused on places which will allow us to be out and about more than we can in Lagos, places with large American International Schools, so the kids can hopefully have a good pool of possible friends, and places with good timing for us (scheduled departure date, training, and arrival date that will minimize the interruption to our kids’ school years).
Today we turned in our list of preferred posts. Our bidlist by the numbers:
We bid on 12 jobs
We bid on jobs in 4 different geographic bureaus.
We bid on jobs on 3 continents
We bid on jobs which would require me to learn one of 5 languages.
We bid on 10 2 year consular jobs and 2 rotations
Most importantly, we bid on 12 jobs in places we think we would enjoy living, with good, large schools, and interesting domestic or regional travel and recreation opportunities. Once again it is time to hurry up and wait. We should know how long we’ll be in DC, and where we’ll be moving in 2020, in about 2 weeks. We look forward to scratching off another country on our cool scratch-off map!
A few funny things about this map. We’ve actually visited a few more countries than are currently scratched off. We recently got several pieces of artwork, including this map, framed. The guy mostly did a nice job. However, he seems to have backed this map with corrugated cardboard or foamboard. The trouble with that is, we just get a corrugated impression and a mess when we try to scratch things off of it. We’ve ordered a new map and we’ll start over when it gets here. Dannica was in Spain and France earlier this year, and Harrison just got back from Norway, but neither of us went along, so they don’t count. It’s funny that we both grew up in the southwest, heck most of my highschool went to Rocky Point every year for spring break, but neither of us has been to Mexico yet. Someday.
It has been an eventful spring. It is the dry season here in Nigeria. The dreaded sand filled skies of Harmattan have left us and we are left with warm sunny days. Day to day life is filled with mundane and exciting adventure, which is how life should be. Below you will find a brief glimpse into the last few months.
We spend a lot of time with friends and co-workers. They are the best thing about this post. We had a great meeting on the day of the second annual women’s march. Lots of discussion over how how we can make a difference, support equal rights, empower women, and be involved in our nations politics even a continent away. My friend Brianna brought her friend Hillary to join in on the fun.
Everett Roger celebrated his 11th birthday. He had an awesome birthday party. Pool party of course because who knows when we will live somewhere warm enough to have a pool party in February again.
A picture of me to prove I really am doing well. I tend to take so many of the pictures I am not often in them. We are adjusting my thyroid meds every month in hopes to find something that will work. My yearly ultrasound check is coming up, I am sure it will still be cancer free and the mass they found last year will not have grown.
Roger and his friends are obsessed with pretending they have “The Force” and making their friends fly or jump. The pool adds another level of fun to the exercise. Roger loves living in a compound with so many friends around to play sports!
Oh swimming pool, how thankful we are for you!
All students in the second grade joined the Invention Fair. The students developed their own invention including a prototype. Oliver may a Zipper Neck Saver which zipped onto a seatbelt to protect it from rubbing against your neck while on the school bus. Yes our busses have seat belts.:)
He got to present on his invention to all of the parents who came to enjoy the convention. He was so professional.
We spent a night out with our longest standing friends in Lagos. These lovely people were all members of Ben’s A-100 class in Virginia. They too were sent to Lagos on their first assignment. Happy one year anniversary with the Foreign Service!
Dannica got to dress up for Throwback Thursday at school. When I told her she should wear a dress I had from the 1960’s she replied “Not that far back mom, more like the ’90’s or 2000’s.” Ben’s letterman jacket did the trick.
A quiet moment of two brothers playing video games in a thrashed living room because lets be honest, a fair amount of video gaming happens around here as well.
Unfortunately too much of our time is spent in traffic. Frank our great driver makes it a more pleasant experience as well as just being along for the ride. You have to enjoy the crazy like this taxi driver being so done with traffic he is attempting to push his fellow taxi mate into the intersection.
Some friends of ours went to Thailand. We agreed to kitty sit. Miss Damissa is a sweet and sassy thing. Of course she went into heat right after they left so the kids got to learn another reason to spay and neuter you pets. It was a loud few nights for them but she was fun to have around.
Ben had a birthday and I made him pineapple upside down cake with real pineapple. The pineapple here is so tender and juicy it was quite moist, probably too much so but it tasted great.
Well what can you say, a beautiful country ruined by trash. The first few weeks the kids were so shocked now they eat their candy and don’t even notice.
Easter at the American Club. They had games and an egg hunt and a pretty great Easter brunch. Look how tall they are all getting.
The kids and Ben celebrated Dannica’s safe return from France/Spain and the long Easter weekend with a few hours spent on their ongoing game of Dungeons and Dragons. Any long weekend it is the first thing they request. One of the perks of this job is Ben is home so much more. Also without the pressing needs of a house to care for we have much more time for family.
Keeping with our tradition of experiencing as much of the medical care as Lagos has to offer…Oliver had major tooth pain and had to see a local dentist for a filling. I was very impressed with their skill and sanitation. The cost wasn’t bad either. A three sided filling, stand up x-ray, infection treatment and 3 exams for about $150. Sure beats the $400 we paid in Virginia.
Roger was excited to participate in Saturday sport soccer. Barcelona is his favorite team and Dannica got to visit the stadium on her trip.
Dannica got to play Mulan in the school musical. It was pretty magical watching her. We now have a huge canvas poster like this!
A show well done. We didn’t get any pictures of she or Harrison during the performance leaning on a professional filing crew. I guess there have been some problems so we still don’t have the video.
The cast and crew at the end of the show. It was a full house. Over 350 seats sold out both nights.
We have gone through 4 fridges and one freezer in the 9 months we have been here. Hopefully this one with mysterious Wifi will be the keeper.
Since our car arrived 5 months ago we have been hit by two motorcycles weaving their way through traffic and this guy who was trying to cut in line while waiting to pay a toll. He scraped that mirror all along the side of our Pilot. I was not happy. There may have been some words said. Ben was driving. Needless to say it ended fine because Frank our driver is magic and removed the paint with foam and brake fluid?!?
Saturday sports has now moved on to baseball which Roger is excited to play again after missing last years season because of our move. Other than fencing, watching him play baseball is the most enjoyable for me.
The kids had the equivalent of parent teacher conferences. Only the teacher doesn’t really talk. The kids put together a online portfolio showing all the work they have done in various classes so far that year. They do a formal presentation to their parents. It was pretty cool. Harrison was happy I rewarded him with a chocolate croissant. I miss this half grown boy he is currently on his class trip to Norway.
Nothing makes you remember the part of being a foreign service officer wherein you committed to being “worldwide available” like looking at a bid list! We received the list of possible postings for second tour officers who are scheduled to leave their current posts in the summer of 2019 (read: me and an unknown number of my colleagues, about half of my A-100 orientation class and part of some others before ours who had language training for their first post). We now have 2 weeks to digest it, read up on others’ experiences in the various options, and submit our list of preferences. It really is fun to do this kind of research and imagine ourselves living in the various places. Based on a first review of the list, I think we may have more people wanting to visit than we have had here in Nigeria.
We’ve got a few goals this time around. We’ll have 3 kids in highschool by the end of our next tour (wait, what!?!?!), so we’re looking for places with good schools, and hopefully a reasonable size pool of potential peers. Hopefully we won’t need to avail ourselves of the medical care quite as often as we have here in the last few months, but it would be nice to have medical care available. We definitely want more access to nature/wilderness! Living in a megacity with restricted movement is not the same as living 1 house away from the Dixie National Forest. I’ll be required to learn a language for my next tour, so wherever we go it will start with several months in Washington. Stay tuned for the news about where we’ll be headed in early May.